Dave, it's a feature not a requirement. The idea behind it is that the battery will last slightly longer if it is constantly on power if it's held at 80%, not 100%. The difference in life is a few percent, not huge. So if the battery life is, let's say, 5 years, the saving from being at 80% for those five years would be about 5% or so, or .25 of a year, so three months, maybe. But since you, and everybody else, will be occasionally taking it off mains and using it as a portable, and then putting it back on mains where it goes back to 100% for a while, the actual real-life change might be closer to 3% or less, so maybe 6 weeks?
Now, as a feature, it's working perfectly for me. My MBP is on power 95+% of the time, only rarely moved off to work on the battery alone, so it hovers near 80% (Right at this instant, it's 79%.). I have used this machine off-mains and when it gets back to power, it goes up to 100%, usually for about a week or so, then comes back to 80% again. I haven't seen a lot of complaints about it not working, but I don't go looking on the 'net for those complaints.
There aren't any settings for it that I know of, it's just there.
In the exact instance you talked about, going off mains and then back on, I don't know why it would have stopped at 80% on the way to 100%. My machine just goes to 100% when reconnected without any pauses, then comes back to 80% a few days (week) later.